Has your tween become more moody, intense and critical in the last few years? This is normal! Understand that your tween is changing in so many ways – much like when she went from a baby to a toddler. Letting your tween know that he is terrific means a lot, especially when he isn’t feeling that way.
Be an eParent®! Show appreciation for your tween by making a point of praising what she does right. Send your tween a Snap Chat starring you to say thanks for a job well done or text a photo of yourself holding a thank you sign.
Research suggests that when adults praise tweens for specific behaviors tweens positively change their behaviors and have higher self-esteem. Saying thanks effectively, however, can take some practice. Tweens easily see through automatic or insincere affirmations (for instance, “thanks for waking up this morning”). Specific and genuine praise will go a long way with your teen (for instance, “I love that you prepared dinner tonight without my asking. You made a long day much better with your help. Thank you!”). Observe your tween’s actions and then praise her by sharing what you loved and why. As much as possible, show affection for and interest in your tween!
Find some great tips for Communicating with Your Teen.
Revised November 2018